Going Into The Unknown

Introduction

John:

This is John at Heart Speak. I am here with Matt Del Rosario. Matt, from the short I met you, you started talking about the future and the unknown and your perspective on the unknown. Could you please over that and share what your thoughts were on that?

Matt speaks:

I always felt like an outsider. I always felt I have been on the edge of life. I can participate in it, but for some reason, I catch myself needing space, needing to pull back, needing to feel myself away from others.

In that pulling back, and in that distancing, I found myself kind of at the edge of the unknown. On one side of my life, I can see everything I see and know and understand.

And on the other side, it’s just vastness. Darkness, no, not darkness meaning negative or fearful, but darkness meaning as in anything, unknown, magic. The belief that anything can happen in this void of space.

And one of my mentors and good friends, Michael, taught me to let go of my fear of the unknown. So, in the time working with him, I learned to look at this void as if I were looking at outer space. With all this darkness, within this darkness is speckled light and colors, some are a little bit more vibrant, and some are clustering together. But the darkness is never completely dark.

It's just who we are as individuals, that when we shine, we actually create little spots, little places of hope. So, when I look into the unknown, I am not afraid of it, just like this, I can’t plan to meet the people in this universe. But when I do, I find that I shine.

I’m not afraid of venturing out into the darkness because I know I am going to find other stars, who are like minded. My mentor also told me that great people find great people. It’s just the way the universe works.

And because of that, I don’t have a fear of the unknown, because I know I am meant to meet great people, I’m meant to meet other stars, and that’s just the way the world works.

He also did teach me that to let go of my fear of the unknown and to look at it differently, I have to be able to believe in myself, to the point that he told me, “Matt, you are such a great improvisor. You’re a master at improvisation.”

And then I said, “thank you” and I had to think about it where we improvise our whole lives. We are all masters of improvisation. We just don’t give ourselves the credit.

As I mentioned before, how we brush our teeth is not choreographed, but improvised. We don’t have a set of ten strokes on the top, ten on the bottom, ten on the whatever. We brush to what we need to get to, and that’s it.

And so, so much of our life we actually improvise our way through it. But we don’t give ourselves the ownership and credit for the choices that we made, and the beauty that we created off of our improvisation.

So, when it comes to that unknown, I’ve learned not to fear the unknown. But rather I have learned to accept it and actually learned to be curious and wanting. I’m excited for what comes my way.

It’s almost like standing at the shore of the ocean and watching the water calmly come in, but also watching the water storm in as a big wave. Either way, I find joy in whatever is about to come to my present moment.

John:

You never know what the ocean will bring. What piece of driftwood it will wash ashore. Then you work with. Whatever that means: if it means go in this direction or that direction, change your life.

And one of my friends talks about the rabbit that went into the briar patch. The briar patch is all these sharp little prickly vines and bushes. To the average person, it will rip them apart.

But the rabbit finds safety in the unknown future.

By Matt Del Rosario

About the Author

Matt Del Rosario is founder of Flow Kakou Inc, a non-profit organization. Flow Kakou means "The balance of all things moving together."

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